You Will Get Wet on This Ride

You Will Get Wet on This Ride

I washed Mother’s hair at present. What a multitude!

For some purpose, Mother, like many individuals dwelling with Alzheimer’s, doesn’t take pleasure in bathing or showering. Maybe it’s the overwhelming variety of duties related to morning rituals that somebody with Alzheimer’s can now not bear in mind methods to do or what order to proceed in. I think about Mother has a clean house in her reminiscence when she’s requested to clean. And never with the ability to do it herself undermines her sense of accomplishment and management when she realizes she depends on another person to help.

Mother doesn’t know the distinction between a skirt, a bra, and her nightdress. She will’t alter the water temperature within the bathe. She forgets to make use of cleaning soap. And he or she most definitely received’t put her head underneath the water.

When invited to bathe, Mother usually says she has already showered. The argument to persuade her that she hasn’t or that she wants to clean usually ends in rage and frustration, not just for Mother however for myself, my dad, and Sahlee, our caregiver. Or, Mother tells us she doesn’t really feel like showering at present. It does no good to remind her that she hasn’t showered since yesterday, as a result of she after all she will be able to’t bear in mind. Suggesting she smells is even worse—how insulting!

Somebody should be with Mother whereas she showers. And we should be there with the understanding that we might get moist.

Once we can persuade her to bathe, normally every single day, however not at all times, Mother has every so often entered the bathe together with her underpants on. Attempting to eradicating soaking wet pants from an incalcitrant particular person isn’t a straightforward process.

Showering usually can forestall physique odor and urinary tract infections in addition to funguses and rashes. We’ve discovered, although, that the day by day battle to get Mother within the bathe will be relaxed every so often.

This nonetheless leaves the issue of Mother’s hair. If we are able to persuade her to clean it as soon as every week, we’re fortunate.

At present, Sahlee tried to persuade Mother that we had a marriage to go to, however Mother wasn’t hooked by that concept. She usually rambles in the course of the day concerning the youngsters or folks she should see, and I ponder the place in her reminiscence she is on these events. I don’t suppose her self-references embody magnificence preparations for outings. I’m questioning the place she sees herself most frequently. In her mom’s home? A younger, impartial secretary? A newly married lady? What has she finished or achieved in her life that may lend itself to needing to clean?

Maybe if we sofa it when it comes to well being points she could be extra amenable to our sitting her on a chair within the rest room with a towel draped on her shoulders.

In any case, wetting her hair and massaging in shampoo was the straightforward half. However she wouldn’t search for or tilt her head again to ensure that us to rinse it out. We had her rise up and bend over the lavatory sink as an alternative. That labored till she realized that there was water pouring down her head and he or she took a couple of steps backwards. A number of water ended up on the ground, on our sneakers, and on our garments. Many of the shampoo got here out, however not all of it.

Mother was upset however not indignant. She even agreed to dry her hair and elegance it together with her brush.

And so to subsequent time. There are a lot of articles on-line about the advantages of non-washed hair. Can I swallow that recommendation? Will Mother’s hair turn into lush and full with little to no washing? Or will she find yourself with dreadlocks?

I believe I’m going to put money into dry shampoo. Sure, it’s an actual factor. Possibly we’d be much less moist on that experience.

As at all times, getting into my kitchen is a reduction from the stress of caring for Mother. With Purim occurring this week, I needed to make one thing that mirrored the vacation. Purim is the celebration of Queen Esther saving us from the genocidal plan of King Achashverosh’s evil minister, Haman. There’s a legend that Haman wore a three-cornered hat; to commemorate his downfall, we eat three-cornered pastries. Usually, these hamentashen, or oznei Haman (Haman’s ears) as they’re known as in Hebrew, are candy, cookie-like desserts. The hamentashen I made are cheese-filled and greatest served with tomato sauce.

Purim Calzones

This Italian pastry is mostly made as stuffed half circles of dough that’s crimped on the edges to carry within the stuffing. I’ve made them right here as savory oznei Haman or hamentashen particularly for Purim. Get pleasure from!


Three teaspoons yeast
2 tablespoons date honey
2 cups heat water
5 to six cups flour
2 teaspoons salt


1 250 gram (8.Eight oz.) container cottage cheese
1 250 gram (8.Eight oz.) container white cheese (gvina levana)
¾ cup grated yellow cheese
½ cup grated parmesan
3-Four cloves garlic
1 giant onion, chopped
1 tablespoon olive oil
2 cups recent spinach
Pinch nutmeg
Salt and pepper to style



  1. Proof yeast by inserting in bowl with date honey and heat water. Let sit as much as 15 minutes till yeast begins to react.

  2. Add remaining components and blend with fork till a stiff dough begins to type. Knead with arms for a couple of extra minutes—including extra flour if dough could be very sticky—and place in a heat location to rise for one hour.

  3. In the meantime, sauté garlic and onions till onions turn into translucent. Add spinach and cook dinner till wilted and darkish inexperienced. Take away from warmth.

  4. In a big bowl, mix cheeses and pinch of nutmeg. Add cooked spinach, and salt and pepper to style.

  5. Roll out dough on a floured floor till about ¼ in thick and reduce out circles through the use of a cup or bowl with a large diameter. (I used a bowl that was 15 centimeters in diameter, about 9½ inches.)

  6. Place one heaping tablespoon (plus extra if it suits) of filling within the heart of the dough circle.

  7. Moisten the sting of the dough circle with water.

  8. Gently raise circle edges above the filling and pinch collectively so {that a} triangle is fashioned. Pinch collectively the remaining triangle edges.

  9. Place on a baking sheet lined with baking paper.

  10. Brush completed oznei Haman with egg.

  11. Poke or reduce small holes within the dough in order that steam will be launched.

  12. Bake at 450° for 20 minutes till dough is crisp and browned.

  13. Serve sizzling with tomato sauce.

This recipe is customized from the Moosewood Cookbook by Mollie Katzen.


In regards to the Writer: Miriam Inexperienced writes a weekly weblog at, that includes anecdotes about her mom’s Alzheimer’s, and associated recipes. Her e-book, The Misplaced Kitchen: Reflections and Recipes from an Alzheimer’s Caregiver, can be printed subsequent yr by Black Opal Books. Her poetry has appeared in a number of journals, together with Poet Lore, the Prose Poem Challenge, Ilanot Overview, The Barefoot Overview and Poetica Journal. Her poem, “Mercy of a Full Womb,” received the 2014 Jewish Literary Journal’s 1st anniversary competitors. She holds an M.A. in Artistic Writing from Bar Ilan College, and a B.A. from Oberlin School. Miriam is a 20+-year resident of Israel, and a mom of three. Yow will discover Miriam on Fb at


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